Joy.
It’s the word that’s been on my mind this past week more so than any other word or phrase. I keep running in to examples of the word “Joy” this week, over-and-over-and-over. The universe is prodding and poking and nudging and steering.
For years I talked often about “The Herringbone Effect”. It was a fun personal story of buying a sports coat in Bloomington in 1983, and the salesman in Sullivan’s Clothing telling me he’d recommend a herringbone jacket. I had never heard the word “herringbone” and was both embarrassed by not knowing what it was and interested in learning. I bought, instead, a green sports coat (which I’m sure was influenced by my love and golf and The Masters, and it was an awesome jacket for years). As I left Sullivan’s, I hadn’t gone a block when I just happened to overhear two people talking about wallpaper. One said “I’m thinking maybe a cream-colored herringbone”. I got goosebumps. I then had lunch at Ladyman’s Cafe (with Mellencamp, which is another story) and a guy at the next table said he’d just bought a new ring, and the centerpiece was a herringbone-effect stone. I got goosebumps again.
I dearly love coincidences and the occasional dancing magic in language and life.
I’d told “The Herringbone Effect” story a few times and our son and I would often share examples of inexplicable coincidences that had happened to us that particular day. One afternoon he came home from school and told me excitedly that there’s actually a name (other than “The Herringbone Effect”, which I’d always thought was a great name) for the experience — The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon. So, my little herringbone coincidences on Kirkwood Avenue reached scientific/medical pedestals years later, and was given a clinical-sounding title, I suppose a bit more prestigious-sounding than was “Herringbone”….. And the story comes to an end.
“Joy”, however, though I’ve used the word countless times and isn’t part of “The Herringbone Effect” or Baader-Meinhof, has nonetheless never quite penetrated my consciousness as it has this past week or so.
For whatever reason, I’ve always been disinterested in “Happy”. My bias has been that “Happy” is momentary and somehow less than what ought be one of our life goals. But “Joy”, I’m discovering (as the universe is poking me….), is much more deep-rooted and meaningful. I’m intrigued with “Joy” as a guiding principle.
To feel Joy. To transmit Joy. To exude Joy and cultivate Joy. Even writing those words I can feel a peace.
What does any of this have to do with a photography blog? Maybe nothing. Maybe everything. Probably something in between. To feel Joy and to exude Joy during a session, as an example, is an extraordinary gift. To genuinely care for the client, to want what the client wants, to exceed the client’s expectations, to gift the client with meaningfulness and healthy pride….. Our lives mean something. Our lives can mean much, much more as we create positive encounter after positive encounter after positive encounter with everyone with whom we cross paths. A smile. A friendly nod of the head. A wave. A kind word. Slowing down. Opening doors (literally and figuratively). Helping. Preemptively knowing. Caring.
Whether you’re holding a camera or plowing the soil or teaching a class or driving a truck cross-country or on your knees praying for meaning and understanding and hope and direction….
Joy to you.
Read More